Stop Giving A Shit What People Think And Get Busy Living

A few weeks ago, I got a skateboard. A pennyboard to be exact. I’ve never skateboarded in my life, and I’m about to turn 30 in a few month’s time. 

I imagined what it would be like cruising along the paths and lanes around me. Nipping to the shops, skating there and back. Saving time and energy in the process. 

I practiced getting on and off, rolling around a bit. All in the safety of the living room. Scared the bejesus out of the dog as I kept almost crashing head over heels repeatedly. 

When it came time to practice outdoors. The fear gripped me. It was not a fear of failing, or hurting myself. I was more than prepared for that. It was the anxiousness of what other people would think of me, a grown man, playing on a child’s toy.

At least, that’s what my fear response told me. 

I pushed through that thin barrier, and started learning to really cruise about, pushing, getting on and off, slowing down, aiming for everything to be a conscious and controlled manoeuvre. Luckily, it seems I’m a bit of a natural (like ice skating, I seem to have a thing for balance orientated sports). But, that same self-consciousness kept stepping in. 

Every laugh, or half-heard conversation was, surely, about me. But, it wasn’t. I was just some guy on a skateboard, rolling around. They didn’t give me a second’s notice. 

As I came to terms with the fact, most people didn’t care, I could take it when one kid on a bike said: “keep trying, buddy,” in a sarcastic tone. I’d already progressed to a level of confidence. 

I was enjoying myself. I was enjoying the joy of beginners mind, the slow practice toward mastery, and rush you get of cruising at speed on a skateboard. It’s very relaxing. Like your own personal conveyer belt. 

I realised, if I had given in to my self-consciousness, I would not be experiencing this great feeling. And then I realised, I didn’t care what people thought. 

And that’s the real secret to achieving anything. Stop giving a shit what people think. Just do what brings you joy, as long as you don’t hurt any body. 

You’ll find, the more you don’t care about people’s opinions, and the more you live the adventure, the more enjoyment you will get out of life.

Go and live.

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The Only Limitations

“The only limitations one has are the ones they place on themselves.”

Mohammed Ali

1942 – 2016

What Happens When You Pay Unequally?

In an experiment, two monkeys who performed the same task were rewarded unequally. One was rewarded with a slice of cucumber and the other was given a grape.

The results are predictable, but the video I link to below is an amazing visual representation of our response to a world that is not equal.

The Positive Pragmatist philosophy that I use as my framework for the world does not believe the world is equal. It is a basic requirement of the game to understand that rule number 1 is: the world is not fair.

Kicking and screaming accomplishes pretty much nothing in the long-term. Constant growth, action, and humility compounds over time.

The path to success, however, will be littered by the kicking, screaming, and protesting of those that feel they have a raw deal.

Looking at the world from a different perspective is one of the great abilities that differentiates us from a Capuchin Monkey. We can choose to see that a piece of cucumber is a perfectly acceptable piece of food. Eating too many grapes will make you fat and unhealthy. Having too much of a good thing is not guaranteed to make you happy.

Check out the video.

KG Heath is a Digital Health professional, author, and lifestyle blogger. You can download his debut novel FREE right here.

If You Don’t Make Mistakes

“If you don’t make mistakes, you’re not working on hard enough problems. And that’s a big mistake.”

Frank Wilczek, 2004 Nobel Prize winner in physics

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KG Heath is a Digital Health professional, author, and lifestyle blogger. You can download his debut novel for FREE here.

Why Your Success Requires You To First Set Yourself On Fire

I first started my journey within the self-improvement space when I was working with a charity coaching and training people looking to get a job.

My clients needed a lot of help, but one of the most important aspects that needed covering was their motivation. It can be punishing trying to get a job. And that’s where I came across my all-time favourite quote. I would like to share it with you today:

“Success isn’t a result of spontaneous combustion. You must set yourself on fire.”
Arnold H. Glasgow

Doesn’t that put a spark in your heart?

Yes, I did just throw a pun out there.

This is an important lesson for you to understand. Success in life is not automatic, it requires action.

Since when have you ever received anything by just sitting there staring into the distance, watching cat videos, or cursing your fate.

No, you get everything in life by getting out there, building things, making connections; causing momentum by the actions you have been taking and how that compounds the opportunities you come across.

Success is a snowball falling down a mountain. You need to get it started through initial action, but then as gravity (small wins) takes over, the snowball gets bigger. The speed and the size of that snowball causes it to get bigger even faster.

When opportunities start being thrown at you without your own action, that is when you have reached the state of an influencer. People want to be associated with you, or to work with you, because of your presence.

But, this starts with that first step you need to take. Write that book, upload that first YouTube video, start that podcast, work with that first client, apply for that new job.

You are in control of your fate. You just need to choose to act.

And that is going to make you feel afraid. Because it’s you delving into the Great Unknown, and we have evolved to be smart by not choosing to jump into dark voids.

But, here’s the truth: life begins beyond the void. People in control of their fates, earning their true value, and reaching the state of influencer are the ones that chose to leap.

The fire in this article’s quote is not one of self-immolation. It is, instead, the spark of your own success.

If you’re sat there wanting to reach your true potential, to achieve your goals, or to turn your life around there is only one piece of advice that I can give you.

Go set yourself on fire, and show the world the brightness of your ambition.

KG Heath is a Digital Health professional, author, and lifestyle blogger. He helps people to reach their full potential. You can download his debut novel free right here.

You Might Not Be Where You Want To Be

 “You might not be where you want to be… But as my momma used to say: You sure got to be glad you ain’t where you was, though.”

Steve Harvey

How To Overcome Life Obstacles – Moving Backward To Move Forwards

There are always going to be challenges that knock us so hard that we fall righ on our backsides. Whether it’s work, relationships, or home-life.
It can seem like there are no options. 

“How can I fix this thing that is broken?”

Maybe you’re trying to do the wrong thing. Sometimes, you need to let that thing burn to the ground.

Set The Charges

Not everything can be fixed. That project, that career, that idea – maybe it’s just not right.

Perhaps it’s time for another incarnation of that concept, like rebooting a movie. Reuse some of the constituent parts, add some new elements in, shake it about, and maybe that will be better.

We can’t always go in the same direction. You might have to admit you shouldn’t have turned left. It might be time to turn around.

Maybe it’s time to get out of that relationship, if it’s no good for either of you. Or that job is leading you nowhere. Or that project, or business, is just not as compelling as it should be.

Think of a wildfire. It’s a storm of chaos, smoke, heat. It destroys everything in its path. It kills, maims, and traumatises. But, like so much in nature, it has a purpose.

The carbon released in the cathartic fires of the wildfire rejuvenate the soil. And where there once was only blackness, green shoots soon grow. The world reboots, burns everything to the ground, so life can go on in a promising new direction.

Work, love, and life are just the same.

Two Steps Back

It can feel counter-intuitive, but moving forwards is not always right.

And being stuck in the throngs of the situation can blinker your view of what is going on.

You need to zoom out to the 30,000 feet, general on a hill, type perspective. What is the long-term prognosis? What is the honest benefit that will come of what I’m doing? What would happen if I quit?

The truth is, if done carefully, the world will not end. As long as you move right onto the next thing.

And from quitting that job, project, relationship, business idea, etc you might just find yourself on a path to greater success.

Often in life, it’s better to take two steps back to take one forward.

KG Heath is a digital health tech professional, author, and lifestyle blogger. You can download his debut novel FREE here.