We are on a journey, it’s called life. Yet, we yearn to be at some future stage of that journey. Never feeling content, never being happy with our situation, and looking to others and their successes, we feel sour for our lot in life.
It doesn’t have to be that way.
Why So Serious?
For the ambitious, this feeling will be felt frequently. Your life isn’t where you want it to be right now. You know where you want to go, but you are impatient to get there.
Does that mean your life is incomplete right now? Does it mean there is nothing that can bring you joy? Does it mean that you cannot keep learning, improving, and growing?
The feeling is compounded even more when you have plenty in your life, but you feel like you have failed.
Becoming More Content
How you react to the world is largely based on how you choose to view the world around you.
There are people who react to events, and their situation, with positivity, and others who can’t wait to tell everyone about the drama, the woes, and want to make sure everyone joins them in their despair.
The first time of person above shrugs their shoulders and gets on with things, the second runs around telling you the world is ending and doing nothing about it.
You might think that I am writing to the second person in my examples, but I’m not. Both of these people need to find more content. Just as the second person has chosen to seek out negativity, the first person can also slip into this mode from time to time.
Finding content is about choosing to stop focusing on what is not working, and instead reminding yourself of what you do have. Can you feed yourself, do you have a roof over your head, do you have access to transportation, do you have a job, have your progressed up the social ladder? If you say yes to one or more of these then you are doing better than many people who are in a worse situation.
The truth is, you’re doing fine.
You have given yourself a strong foundation to develop yourself from, when you are ready.
So I Just Stop Progressing?
Not at all. You still need to keep learning, growing, and moving forward. These might be baby steps, but they keep you developing as a person.
We are the sum of the mistakes, experiences, and lessons that have come our way. Whether we want it or not, we will keep becoming better people.
But, we also need to look at ourselves right now and accept what we have, find the joy we can have, and celebrate our wins — however small they might be.
It’s OK to be happy.
It’s OK to aim higher.
It’s OK to fail.
It’s OK to enjoy what you have right now.
KG Heath is a digital health professional, author, and lifestyle blogger. You can get his debut novel FREE right here.